If We Don't Tell People How We Feel... How Will They Know?

The art of communication, you're just a brush stroke away.

Before we get started,

hi

hello

it's been a while since we've talked!

Being wrapped up in all of the panoramic madness has definitely stifled a lot of my conversations. This is a bit ironic being as though verbal and written communication is most of what we have to work with. Nevertheless, I'm back and it's time for us to talk.

Expressing your feelings isn't the easiest shit to do, trust me I know. But it's necessary. It's the only way for us to be both heard and felt, especially by those who are the closest to us. Imagine having to sit across from someone at the dinner table every evening, not being able to enjoy the conversation or marvel at the amazing day they've had because you're still in your feelings about a comment they made weeks ago! Or the argument that you and your significant other had the night before is left unresolved because neither of you has mastered how to express being hurt or disrespected.

If we don't tell people how we feel how will they know? How will anything change? How will we be able to enjoy one another?

As someone who frequents therapy weekly, I've realized how ineffective some of my communication techniques have been. All the while I've been under the assumption that any communication is good communication...

wrong as hell

wrong as shit

just wrong

A lot of my approaches stemmed from frustration and hurt feelings and some of the time, my words were a direct reflection of that. Saying things like:

you really acted like a goofy earlier

i really don't want to deal with you right now

that was really some dumb shit you said/did to me

are you dumb?

However, since being in therapy I've been handed many alternative expressions. I've been practicing better ways to tell someone that they've wronged me and bring their behavior to their attention. But, the first step is bringing it to their attention.

HOW IMMA FIX THE ISSUE IF I NEVER KNEW WE HAD ONE?

HOW YOU GON' BE MAD AT ME AND NOT TELL ME?

HOW WE GOT BEEF AND I NEVER KNEW?

speak up.